This is Jack Hyles-type of sermon (like "Woman, the Comfortor") only with the Scriptures as final authority and for example instead of some Baptistic Opinion preached with hoops and hollers. I challenge you to allow the Holy Spirit to guide you with this Book within your marriage and family relationship with your children as well as your relationship with the Lord - your Master and friend.
Remember, we all had fallen short before we were married, but that sure didn't matter at the time! It shouldn't matter now, either!
GRACE must be underlying all of this! Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein. Hebrews 13:9.
We couldn't do it ourselves before and we can't do it ourselves now! We need Christ! He is in us as we are in Him and so we need to let Him do His work! Galatians 2:20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.
It should be reassuring to know that we can't ever 'blow it all' as we strive to improve our walk. If so, Jesus would have to deny himself in order to impute our sin to our account. We are dead to sin so all that we are dealing with here is 'bad works,' all of which will be judged at the Judgment Seat of Christ - not now.
Always continue to press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14 Be desirous to become that great husband / great wife. Ones that please God!
Blessings are abounding 'after' this all gets settled
properly! I Thessalonians 4:1 Furthermore
then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as
ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would
abound more and more.
Following this particular sermon, we will look into the need of a scriptural "friendship" within a marriage.
Following all of that, we will look into that "loving relationship" that is set forth in the Song of Solomon!
If your first marriage fell apart, then here are the ways
to make the next one work.
If you are not married, then this is a great study in
what to prepare for your future spouse, and if you are not in a marriage
situation nor will you be, this is how your relationship can be with Jesus
Christ right now! Soon, you will be His bride!
All three need to exist in order for a marriage to be a Godly Great Marriage!
Any one of these references could easily be a personalized sermon in itself if expanded; so go ahead husband - wife - look these up and do some personal soul searching and Bible study. God's way is always best.
We say that we believe this Bible to be our final authority in all matters of faith & practice - we can also say it is our final "example." This book gives us those perfect examples for us to follow!
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Mix of right & wrong; truth & lie; religion vs
Bible; modern versions vs KJV; working in the world; worldliness in all
Christians; imperfections in all of us;
Then we have the self-guilt; the self condemnation! We must realize that the tares exist everywhere - even amongst the "good brethren!" For yourself & for others, just remember to renew, get up and get going again - Psalm 145:14The LORD upholdeth all that fall, and raiseth up all those that be bowed down. Help others as you help yourself! Galatians 6:1,2 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. |
Sow Good Seed - Keep trying! Don't give up with
the right stuff!
Been asleep? WAKE UP! Crummy worldly stuff will still get into your home, however! The more you sleep, the more it gets in, but it will get in - because you do have to sleep! Be aware that the desire & strong push to be perfect in all things, one does & can ruin a home & family, be it a personal family, another family and/or the church family!! Wait until harvest - kids grow up and have their children! |
Don't always be asking or demanding, "What's happening
- why did you do this - what is this - what's the matter with you?"
You must know that you will never be able to make your home and family perfect, but that is not to say that you should not strive to follow these perfect examples in this Bible! But in the process, you can't expect your husband & children to be perfect. The "stuff" will get in! Even among the good seed will grow tares! We must sleep sometime and that is when the devil does his work! Be obedient to your husband - the harvest will come and God will handle it! |
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(Death or Rapture) Not our disappearing! Do the work until he comes! |
Come home and be thrilled that your wife is waiting for
you - so treat her right! It should be great to see her!
Ephesians 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. |
Always be watching for your husband
to come home - and even if he is 'late' - you should be thrilled to see
him!
Do your daily work until he comes home! Don't waste your time - he may come home early to surprise you! |
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Feel not worthy? We aren't, but when we are saved,
we are to grow towards a worthy walk. Ephesians
4:1
There are others who feel NOT worthy at all after they are saved. We need to treat them with compassion and with great encouragement and show them what God has done for us and how He can do it for them, too! |
Vs 22 - make your
wife feel worthy. Treat her special.
The same can go with your children. Do not use false flattery, of course - but through your guidance, help them see their need and worthiness in your need. Hebrews 13:9 - GRACE! Be not carried about with divers and strange doctrines. For it is a good thing that the heart be established with grace; not with meats, which have not profited them that have been occupied therein. |
You may feel like you are not worthy for your husband,
but accept his grace, his love, his guidance and even his 'correction.'
He can help you!
In the same manner as our Lord cares for us, He still asks us to learn to walk worthy! That is one part of your husbands role! Don't give up in regards to your husband! |
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Matthew 6:24 Matthew 4:10 II Corinthians 4:5 Ephesians 6:6 |
We are "owned" by God. We are to serve Him, not
ourselves!
We only have one master!
It's all about Him, not yourself! Please God and not man! |
Be the master and all that goes with being the 'saviour'!
Lead as God leads you as He led His Son, the Saviour! You are also
to be your wifes savior, so follow the words of your Father in heaven!
You should have no other 'men' to compete with! Be the Man you need to be! |
Serve your husband and your husband only. "Going
to work" puts you under a different master!
You can't have two masters! Your concern is your husband, not somebody else's nor is it to be on yourself only! see Proverbs 31:11,12 |
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Don't talk back to what God says to you!
Don't try to change His words! Listen to what He says and accept it as He said it! |
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
Say it right the first time! Use plainness of speech so that there is no misunderstanding! |
Don't talk back!
Don't try to change his words. Listen to what he says and accept it as he said it! Don't be a corrupter and don't fill the description of one in I Timothy 6:3-5. Don't change what dad says to the children, either! Be content and teach the children also to be content by your example with what dad says! |
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There are others "out there" trying to get you away from the truth and away from the Lord! | Be aware that there are others out there trying to get
your wife away from you.
They want her physically, spiritually & mentally! See Song of Solomon 5:5-7
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The "work force" and those that say you can make your
own career, etc.
The feminists and modern folks want to put you under the bondage of the world. The TV, the soap operas, the modern thinking woman, etc. The schools and government want your daughters! |
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Revelation 19:2 |
The Jezebel world wide religious system, the great whore will try to 'get you!' | Protect your wife from the world system! | Allow your 'master' to protect you from the world.
It only seeks to destroy you and your children by choking the word of God! Luke 8:14 |
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As much as we don't want to, we need to be shining His
light out there in the world.
I Corinthians 5:10; John 17:15 |
You must get a job and you must work out there - where
else could you shine His light!
Your testimony as a Christian husband with a Christian wife and children should be shown to others! |
Trust your husband 'out there in the world.'
He needs to be out there. Pray for him 'out there' that he would stay away from evil! John 17:15 |
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We don't need a sign nor will we ever get one for us to love God! | You shouldn't have to provide a 'sign' that you are a
good husband!
Your faith must be a trustable faith! Your wife's faith is based on your faith! |
You don't need to require a sign in order to love &
trust your husband!
You need faith with and faith in your husband! |
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Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. | Are you ready to be loved with all your wife's heart,
soul and mind?
Are you that kind of husband to receive that kind of love? |
You should love your husband with
all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
That is the greatest thing you can do for your husband! |
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There are those Pharisees who have heard what the Bible says, but they challenge you and others to 'prove it!' | Are you true, and do you teachest the way of God in truth.
Is that your testimony to your wife? |
Do you tempt your husband?
Do you challenge him like the Pharisees? Do you try to "catch him" to prove his imperfection? |
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We can't DO anything to receive eternal life - except to trust Him! | Don't make your wife prove her love to you by what she DOES! | Don't try to prove your love by doing everything perfectly.
You will be miserable - it doesn't work anyway! |
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Trust God in the storms of life! | Handle the storms of life! Be the man you need
to be - the protector, the guide, etc.
It is YOUR responsibility to not only care for her during the storm, you should be able to calm the storm - as well as hopefully, guide her away from them in the first place! Be her haven of rest! Psalm 107:29 Be her buckler! Psalm 18:2 Your truth should be her shield and buckler! Psalm 91:4 |
Trust your husband through the rough days.
Allow your husband to handle the storms of life. That is his responsibility! He cares - he does not want to let you perish! Trust him! And for sure, don't become one of the storms! Turn to him for your haven of rest, your buckler, your shield! His truth is important to you! |
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Trust God's guidance & commandment! | Guide right - guide with confidence! Guide with truth! | In spite of what you think, follow your husband's guidance! |
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Seek God's words to guide & even correct you! | Know how to guide and even correct some situations!
Use the right words! |
Seek your husband's direction and allow his words to 'correct' you! I TImothy 3:16 |
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Jesus knew who He was and that He was what and who He said He was! | Be the man and know it. Not pridefully, but have confidence in what you do is right! Humble yourself to God's ways and God's words! | This is how your trust and faith is built up! |
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Build as a wise master builder would build.
We are all labourers together! Neither one of us are anything - it is God who giveth the increase! |
Lay the right foundation for your family - that is Jesus
Christ!
Take heed that you build the home properly! You and your wife are builders together! We all have our own 'roles' but it is God who gives the increase. Be the right foundation, as well! |
Be willing to build his way as he is the masterbuilder!
We all have our individual roles to follow. Neither you nor your husband are anything - it is God that giveth the increase! YOU can't make it happen! |
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As you strive to serve God, be temperate in all things.
Do it to obtain an incorruptible crown - not a corruptible one where moth and rust doth corrupt! Matthew 6:19,20 |
Seek the right rewards for your wife, now and eternally! A false balance should be an abomination to you!
Put away that childish stuff!
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Understand that the reason your husband does things the
way he does it that he is trying to be temperate, balanced.
He wants you to receive the right rewards now AND later! Money and gifts is not how he is to try to make you happy! Your marriage is not to be based on 'things!' Your husband is to be temperate in all things. |
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The law leads us to Christ! After the children
grow up, the 'law' is not needed.
After that, we life on faith NOT the law! |
Your 'law' within the house should lead others to the
truth!
Your 'way' in regards to the children growing up after your example should lead your boys to be a Godly man! It should lead your daughter to the need for the right Godly man! |
Understand the role of the husband/father's law plays
within the family.
Don't try to put the law on the family after 'faith' has arrived! Growing up involves hearing the words and then growing with them! |
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Don't let vain words of the world deceive you to fall back into bondage of the law! | Protect your words from being 'changed' or 'mispoken'
to your wife!
Their words are only said in vain in hope to deceive her! She is the one deceivable - II Timothy 2:14 |
Let no man in the world deceive you with vain words -
before you marry them or after!
You belong to your husband! Let him protect you from being deceived - that is your weakness. II Timothy 2:14 |
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Obey God in all things in
singleness of heart, fearing God - and
whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men, knowing
that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance!
We will receive for the right AND for the wrong! Colossians 3:24,25 |
Be sure you teach this to your wife.
Remember the reward for doing right doesn't always have to come now - it can come later, as can the results of doing wrong! We can't mock God nor should your wife mock you! I Timothy 5:24,25 |
You must trust him and be willing to obey him in all
things!
Remember that you will receive for the right AND for the wrong. Some things you might not be rewarded until a later time! You should not mock your husband! |
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We willing to suffer for doing right!
We will suffer for doing right and living godly! |
Be willing to suffer for doing right!
Count on it! Don't be surprised, but prepare your family for it. |
Be in subjection to your husband, when good and gentle
as well as when he is froward.
If you suffer for doing right, God will reward you for that. Obeying your husband will bring suffering from others! If you suffer for doing right in the family, your husband will reward you for it! |
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No need to be 'threatening' with anyone - God may do it all to you! | Don't threaten! | You should have no fear of your husband being a threatening
man!
If so, you know God will get him for it! |
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Be faithful and beloved and you will be partakers of what God has to give! | BE worthy of what you hope your wife thinks of you!
Share with your wife all that you receive and have! Be worthy of the honor your wife should give to you! |
Do not despise your husband.
Count him worthy of all of your honor. You will share all that he has! |
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Purge yourself from the wood and earth of this world - and you can be a vessel unto honour, sanctified and meet for the master's use, and prepared unto every good work. | Treat your wife like a vessel unto honour, sanctify her
and allow her to be used for your purpose of good work.
Your good work should include her as you should prepare her for that good work! |
Purge yourself from the wood and earth of this world.
You can be a vessel unto honour sanctified and meet for your husband's use. You should be prepared for every good work! |
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Don't worry about someone else whether they help you serve God or not - or even be a busibody about their situation. | Expect loyalty and faithfulness! | Don't concern yourself with how other laides and wives
are doing regarding their situation.
Don't worry about being the 'only' good wife in the whole town! |
Now, if you have made it this far, remember, there is more to this than just a master servant relationship. Next, we will deal with the friendship that must take place between your and your spouse - and between you and the Lord!
A marriage is more than just a woman obeying her husband's demands!
But for now, that is the end of part I - The relationship between the master and his servant.
What a great way to end this part I - with two great verses that put a great reminder to the Christian towards the Lord and to the wife towards her husband!
I would sure hope that this is how you not only look to your Lord &
Saviour,
but also ladies to your husband & saviour.
For the husband is the head
of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:
and he is the saviour of
the body.
Ephesians 5:23
And to us husbands, we have a lot to live up to, eh!
I. Psalm 2:11,12 - Serve the LORD with fear, and rejoice with trembling. Kiss the Son, lest he be angry, and ye perish from the way, when his wrath is kindled but a little. Blessed are all they that put their trust in him.
II. Psalm 100:2-5 - Serve the LORD with gladness: come before his presence with singing. Know ye that the LORD he is God: it is he that hath made us, and not we ourselves; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the LORD is good; his mercy is everlasting; and his truth endureth to all generations.
It all takes GRACE for each other!
Wherefore we receiving a kingdom which
cannot be moved, let us have grace,
whereby we may serve God acceptably with
reverence and godly fear.
Hebrews 12:28